Okay, Carol, I think I have finally plowed through most of the "vulnerability" discussion. First of all, I was NOT talking about the "new" man, the Alan Alda kind of sensitive guy (who I consider a real wimp). And I also acknowledge that for most of history, men have had to project themselves as "strong" above all in order to survive, and am not necessarily criticizing men who are stoic.
What I was talking about is how incredibly sexy a man who is a normal, strong, masculine guy can be when he is healthy enough and has enough TRUE strength to reveal his FEELINGS when he is with a woman he trusts in a romantic relationship, and can be very honest.
Blubbering, simpering, whiny, manipulative men need not apply, since when they act this way they are not sexy. I guess, in fact, SEXINESS was the core of my post, how sexy a man can be in an open, communicative relationship when he can let his macho guard down (not throw it away completely).
But maybe some women do NOT find openness and vulnerability in a close relationship sexy in men. Do some of you actually PREFER stoicism? |
