| | | It's not selfish to not want to be burdened.
That being said I left home when I was 18 to go to work with GM in Michigan.
Caring for her the last 8 years of her life allowed me to remeet my mother. Basically a very healthy woman, but struggled as all elderly do, with losing friends, skills, senses, and mobility.
It took me another project which focussed my efforts outside of the house, to avoid getting drawn into the somewhat depressing environment. I had to prop up her attitude daily it seemed.
The truly big benefit that I'll gain form the experience, is I now know what to expect from aging. Hopefully I'll not fall into the pitfalls, as they are somewhat anticipated.
My Dad died 3 days from 85 and wanted to make the next breathe that his body could not do.
My Mom died at 98.5 and had lost hearing sight on bad days, and had mobility issues. She was totally at peace, when I told her she was in hospice. She said "she was ready and had lived a good life", that was my mother greatest and last gift to me!
Like Freddie Mercury sang about, "Who wants to live forever?"
It's a fine line - I think we'll never really know when. Most importantly we must be at peace with the life we've lived whenever it does happen, as it assuredly will.
Keep the faith you are doing God's work. That assuredly always comes around in time!
Bob |
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