Pussy whipped? I think that is what most men fear, and that is why they resist what they perceive of as control by women. But what if men and women really are good at different things, and see the world in different ways? While I would agree with you wholeheartedly that both people in a relationship have to at least be open and present in order to have a reasonable hope of marriage counselling being effective, I also think in sort of an Eastern philosophical way that there is a level of communication way above the petty divisiveness many couples get locked into.
Once a marriage counsellor reassured me that she had found this state of nirvana in her own marriage, where she and her husband were so evolved and so full of richness in their own beings, that petty stuff like where the socks are, clean or dirty, simply didn't exist as a problem. I am still waiting to get there, trying hard, maybe someday.
Deaf? I think a lot of men try that, in a way, by simply tuning out when their wives are talking. Because women have such good memories, I would not recommend this, because I think in the long run it makes the discord more serious, and communication more difficult. If you aren't even listening it's a certainty you are going to screw up something important, and then the relationship is even more polarized, no?
Have you thought of trying for a week to just go along with your wife's views of reality and happy domesticity, and seeing where you are at the end of that time? She might love and appreciate you more, and show you in many small ways how grateful she is, and the conflict might die down. I think it's worth experimenting, anyway. |
