Well Christine, I don't see any constructive profit to be made from focusing on the differences that divide us. The statistics of predilections says nothing about an individual human experience. There is no question that men and women are different and ever it be so. But there is much greater common ground. To me it seems that rather than dividing into the camps of the penetrated and the penetrators, a purely mechanical distinction that is a consequence of our evolution, it is more fruitful to try, just for a moment, to place yourself in the place of the other. To view others holistically, not taking their differences out of the context of being human.
It seems to me that there is a natural fear and distrust related to people that are different. We have racism that seems defined by the simple fact that some people have different colored skin. Never mind that, save that one fact, we are all the same.
The same seems true with regard to homosexuals. Those that would focus on their differences are likely to find many reasons not to like those that are different. My point is so what that there are differences. As humans they are also the same. They want, they yearn, they thirst for fulfillment, acceptance, actualization, etc. every bit as much as the next person. And I think they have a right to it, every bit as much as I have. Understanding other people isn't really that hard as the tools are right at hand in your own experiences. To demonize others differences, denies their humanness and diminishes us all in the same way that racism does. |
