Sorry, August, the vision of a mother making a child she had created kneel on rice to cause pain was too gory for me to contemplate somehow, and I didn't answer your post in a timely manner.
Which is too bad, because I wanted to tease you about whether you had a hangover yesterday!!! I hope you are feeling really good today.
I suspect that children who were really abused get much more upset by discussions of spankings, because their experiences are raw and fresh even after all this time when the subject is mentioned. I'm happy that your experiences didn't seem serious to you.
In my opinion, your little girl has a very strong spirit, and is doing everything she can to make sure it stays that way. Later in life, this spunk will be very helpful to her. I don't think she REALLY wants to go to her room or sit in a corner, but she wants you to believe you are not getting to her. My way of dealing with a child like that would be to minimize conflicts. All parents know that there is a lot that can be overlooked without doing any real harm, or you can challenge the child on absolutely everything, which is just going to lead to conflict. I would choose my battles wisely, so the two you you can keep getting along. She sounds like the type of child who could easily rebel, and I'm sure you don't want that!! |
