Christine, Christine...
God is many things, but flesh He is not EXCEPT for one brief moment in history. And at that time He did come in the male form. Personally Christine, I believe God imbodies both the male and female attributes, but for some reason, known only to Him, He made male first and then created woman from the "rib" of man. This has many theological implications let alone sociological. The true relationship between man and woman is of mutual respect and admiration. Where the male is to love his wife unto death. Christine, the answers to your questions are in God's Word. Contrary to many beliefs there are some people and churches that uphold the Word without prejudice or bias.
To answer your question Christine, God is spirit, He is love, He is Light, and most important, He is (the) Truth!
Tom |