Welcome to the Feelings thread, Buzz! It is nice to see new people drop by. What is that stuff in your profile about mahogany sawdust, though?
That thing you posted about child rearing is exactly representative of an authoritarian parenting style, which is not very good for children. They grow up fearful, stunted, and sneak around doing bad things whenever there is a good chance they will not be caught. The mean parenting practices described there will pretty much ensure that you will not have a good or trusting relationship with your children, either, which is based on respect, not brute force or ordering them about without explanation. How do people really expect children to grow up and think for themselves if they are not allowed to gradually understand the rationality of their parents' thought processes?
<<Autocratic parenting-- also called Authoritarian/Traditional is characterized by many strict limits and no
freedom. The parents belief is that they must control their child and their goals for the child are
obedience, respect for authority, a "healthy fear", and responsibility to others; the parent makes the
decisions.. The parent is inflexible, controlling, critical, harsh, loud, and strong; s/he uses rewards and
punishment, threats and bribes, yelling and demanding as discipline tools. The parent's needs are
considered more important than the child's and they impose their will upon the child, who is usually
required to obey without question. Nonverbal body language includes hands on hips, scowling, disgust,
sighing, pointing finger, shaking head, and derisive laughter. The parent-child relationship is fearful,
distant, cold, resentful and rigid; the home atmosphere is tense, rigid, militaristic and oppressive.
Effect of Parenting Style on Children:
Autocratic--Children can be insecure, fearful, resentful; they obey out of fear of punishment, learn to subvert or
maniupulate, are often out of control when parents aren't present, retaliate and strike out at times. Children can be
disobedient, sneaky, strong-willed, rebellious, and lacking in self-discipline.>>
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