Some people have a very real need to feel warm and comfy in the face of misery, and can create all manner of elaborate constructs to fulfill their need. I don't really think he's trying to force his construct on you, just to reinforce it for himself.
As you of course know, in the world as it was until very recently - the world that deists believe God created - children like yours, and like most of the handicapped, would be very unlikely to survive for more than a very brief time. So when we create medications and therapies to extend their lives, are we defying "God's will" or "nature's law", or extending it? Not saying we shouldn't, far from it. Only, perhaps, that life is hard, but we fight back however we can. Through actions, not metaphysical meanderings.
What drives me truly mad, though, is when people respond to afflictions - usually those of others - by announcing that it is God's will, or that God is testing us, or that the experience will make us stronger. Taking this trend to the outer limits is the recently fashionable and sublimely idiotic injunction to "feel the pain", As if we don't.
Not really sure what all this is supposed to mean, if anything. I don't really feel any impulse to express empathy with your struggle, as I'd guess you're handling it as well as anybody could. I hope I do as well with my own.
Steve |
