Christine, maybe I should be a little more specific, although the topic is extremely personal and painful. I am thinking about one man in particular, formerly my best friend and business partner. We are both married, never cheated on our spouses, but had a warm, affectionate, loving, relationship for several years. Then I found out he was looking at porn on the Internet, and got jealous, and told him (via e-mail) that I did not want to have anything more to do with him socially,and that I thought anyone who looked at porn on the Internet was a pathetic loser. He responded by refusing to speak to me, threatening to have me arrested if I came to his office, and went behind my back to my best client and got me fired.
I am having a hard time getting over it, and one of the things that I wonder is if maybe part of it is cultural, that I just don't understand?
Another thing that puzzled me is why he would not sleep with me. For a long time I accepted that he was being loyal to his wife, but he kept complaining that they were not sleeping together, either, so I started wondering if maybe he was gay but not out of the closet? |
