Gee, Kevin, it looks like you totally blew it for sure. I'm just guessing here, but it sounds like you like this woman and used the excuse of alcohol to explore the possibility of whether she liked you in as romantic a way as you like her. Maybe you are even a little shy!! That lessening of inhibiitions alcohol causes always seems like a wonderful idea at the time, but is certainly regrettable later. Even if it turns out that the feelings were mutual, that much alcohol in the mix usually cheapens the experience, certainly for the woman involved, and really jeopardizes the future of the relationship. Embarrassment and remorse aren't really harbingers of more good feelings later!!
Now, what should you do to resolve this?? This woman sounds articulate and interesting to me. If you think there is still the possibility of a relationship, you might try a profuse, heart-felt letter of apology, acknowledging that your behavior was inappropriate but came from your growing feelings for her. Women really like it when men are honest and talk about their feelings, and admit their mistakes readily.
Flowers are a nice touch as well, but not the overdone bouquet of red roses!!! You could leave some flowers you picked yourself at her doorstep, or go to a reputable florist who can help you with the symbolism of flowers. Something wild-looking and informal might be nice.
I hope your friend doesn't read SI!! If so, I'm afraid you've done more harm than good by reprinting her letter. And hey, I'm pretty curious about what the title of your email to her might have been!!! She obviously wants to be treated like a lady, and I'm sure you will be able to do that!!
Good luck, Kevin!!
Christine |
