Alexa--
Are you saying that people you know have divorced simply because one of them's had a one-shot roll in the hay with Someone Not His/Her Spouse? Absurd! That's not what I'd call infidelity. Yes, it's a poor idea if you value your marriage, but it doesn't rate 8 on the Richter Scale.
Dunno, maybe it's just that I'm not particularly jealous by nature. Also: sex (Getting It On, as Kevin would say) is one thing, and it's fine, but a relationship is something else, and one should distinguish between the two. Though perhaps I'm oversimplifying. Sex can be many things, best when combined with love, but in the absence perfectly acceptable and fun in different circumstances. If I were married and my husband had an "adventure" while off on a business trip, yes I'd probably be pissed off if I found out (though if he had sense I wouldn't), but the real hurt would come if I learned he was conducting a long-term affair with someone he really cared for.
This may be a tough question; feel under no obligation to answer: your husband says you're "too friendly"; you seem to think men come on to you because of it. Are you sure this is actually the case, or is your husband needlessly jealous/protective?
My God! You're a intelligent professional woman! Why on earth can't you be friends with guys?
Sorry if this sounds polemical, but I find the whole thing pretty astonishing.
Janice |
