Hi, Skipper!!! What a trip!! You're the second guy this week who has just come over here and jumped right in, asking questions, talking about feelings and stuff!! I'm happy that you feel comfortable here, and welcome!!
I feel compelled to add my own opinion regarding your friendship with this woman. I think that while a relationship that has gotten really serious obviously has to have a lot of friendship in it for it to survive and flourish as a complete and longstanding pairing, friendships and romances are quite different in the energy that is put out when they are getting started. For me, once a guy is my friend I am usually never interested in him romantically, because the things I know about him as the result of the friendship energy we expended somehow take the romantic angle out of the picture. Part of romance at the beginning is mystery, and somehow that chemistry is essential for excitement, at least to me. Obviously we will end up with a lot of different opinions on this issue.
I also think the advice I gave Kevin may be applicable here. A woman will let you know how she feels about you by her body language, the look in her eye, etc. If a woman is feeling more than friendship for you, you will almost always be able to tell. If you have to ask, it's almost certain her feelings are friendly, rather than romantic.
But don't be too reticent about showing sexual energy in general!!! It's part of who you are, and the right woman will really enjoy it!!!
I hope I have been less than totally confusing for you!!
Christine |
