Matthew,
Excellent post. Your advice to Burt was what I'd have given, too. But, the question is: Was the effectiveness of pulling back due to the contrast that his pulling out of all the stops provided? That is, did all the attention that was suddenly gone for her, turn the tide? Would she have come back without that kind of prior attention, thinking that he must not be interested enough? It may seem a question that is philosophically incompatible with the way you and I think, but love, being a dynamic situation, can do crazy things to people's heads (especially the pursued).
Even though we may be able to see others' lack of wisdom in love, does it mean they are not worth pursuing? I think that in most cases they probably aren't. In some cases though, they are and it is left to the pursuer's wisdom to decide that. And that depends on one's knowledge of the other person which, hopefully, is deep. Noble thoughts of the pursued should never be the guiding factor, granted, but their occasional flaws should, likewise, not necessarily dismiss them from consideration. The acceptance of another's humanity, within reason, should be a consideration.
CF Rebel |
