The main problem extremely shy guys have with women is, I think, that if a man isn't self confident, the woman has to fear that he knows something she doesn't about himself.
Not necessarily so! There is no correlation between dishonesty and shyness.
As in Groucho's (or somebody's) remark, "You don't have an inferiority complex, you're just inferior
You are assuming that people who are shy consciously think they are inferior. I believe shyness is most often caused by events, words, and actions of others during childhood. Shyness is a programmed thing. I am shy, and that's a gut reaction, but I have plenty of confidence in myself, and do not think I am inferior. Anyway, people who think they are superior are just as much of a problem to the world as those who think they are inferior.
And of course her genes are whispering, "Mate with a guy who can bring home plenty of bear grease and maintain his status and his childrens' in the cave pecking order!" It's possible to be a man of few words and still convey power, of course. Extroversion in itself isn't the appeal. Some inner authority seems to be.
This is true, but intelligence now-a-days is usually more important in "bringing home he bacon" than physical power. I agree that confidence is important also, but those who are demonstratively confident are often masking their insecurities.
I agree that women are probably programmed to be attracted to someone who is obviously "powerful," but so often disrespect and cruelty are mistaken for power and strength. That's how so many women end up with wife-beaters.
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Dave D |
