Your question is impossible to answer, for me at least. I can't speak for any man other than myself, and I can't really even answer for myself, never having been in either situation.
In general, I'd say that presumably there are some who enjoy being adored. I don't, possibly because I've only been adored by women I don't particularly care for. There is something canine, and also something thoroughly unrealistic, about adoration. Most people who adore others endow the adored one in their minds with qualities that are pretty thoroughly imaginary; it is typical of human nature that when the self-deception becomes clear, the adorer gets irritated with the adoree for not living up to the fantasy, rather than recognizing that the fantasy was never real to begin with. I would rather be liked for what I am than adored for what I am not.
To accept your postulate, though, it might be rather nice to be adored by someone you actually loved, and the converse might not be so bad either. I suppose it even happens, sometimes. |
