To say that women, or men, essentially seek "dominion" essentially confirms that argument.
To say that they seek dominion exclusively, or that the quest for dominion is the primary driving force in their sexual relationships, would support that argument, not (I would think) confirm it. The games we discuss provide the opportunity to experience dominion, or submission, or both, without allowing those conditions to control the entire relationship. Obviously they can get out of hand, as can most things, but in general I think the whole idea rather healthy. Of course I feel that way about most of my assorted kinks, and rationalization doubtless has something to do with it.
I wouldn't say that women, or men, seek dominion above all things. I suspect that both are capable of getting a wicked thrill out of it once in a while. |
