To: jpmac who wrote (29143 ) 6/17/1999 10:35:00 AM From: nihil Respond to of 71178
I think that many people rationalize circumcision as prevention of masturbation. Marilyn French in The War Against describes how until recently many American physicians cauterized, excised, or (watch it now) pulled clitorises out with pliers to prevent girls from masturbating. Many parents threaten to cut off their sons' pensises if they continue to play with them causing castration anxiety according to Freud. My young sons played with themselves at every opportunity (and probably still do). But we told them that it bothered some other people, so they should try to do it in privacy. Diapers are a real obstacle to masturbation, and keeping boys clad in them helps prevent masturbation (Depends work too on older guys). I think pants or trousers have the same purpose. No underwear and a hole in your pocket facilitates the activity. I was amazed at how many boys masturbated under the desks. (Always too shy myself). Me, I think that masturbation is the greatest gift of our ancestors (the protoprimates). The ability without training to give oneself sexual pleasure anytime or any place is a very great gift indeed. That we should be ashamed of it seems to me very odd. Were I a woman, I could never love a man who did not masturbate with high frequency and great pleasure. As a man, I love women who can and do give themselves sexual pleasure. It's wonderful to have her think of me while making love to herself. When young, and in love with a girl who was unwilling to engage in any sex with me, a girl telling me she thought of me while masturbating kept me loyal and in love with her. If she had told me that she didn't even fantasize sex with me, I would have left her. I loved her, even though I was teaching another girl everything I knew about sex without being in love with her at the same time.