To: Lizzie Tudor who wrote (3824 ) 8/20/1999 9:57:00 PM From: C Kahn Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 769670
Michelle Harris, I'm sorry I didn't answer your question sooner. I was "Off-line" for a couple of hours. First of all my name is Colleen. I think Mark Silvers gave me the handle of Chaka when he was unhappy with something I said. I understand knee-jerk reactions, having been there myself. I wish I could sing like Chaka Kahn, but that's as far as it goes. You could safely say that I have seen it all and done it all in many areas of my life. And I feel that my experiences have made me a very understanding and compassionate person. Because I've been there, I can tell a person that I know how they feel and really mean it. In my youth, I did have an abortion. But I have dealt with the guilt and have peace about the unfortunate decision I had to make alone, (Boyfriend left town). I carried on with my life, and I have to say that this decision didn't ruin my life in any way. But, on the other hand, I do know people who have had abortions and have been totally devastated by the experience. So I know that each case is unique and completely personal. You can't lump everybody together into one mold. I am also the proud mother of two adult children. My daughter is 27, and my son is 24. They are both the light of my life. Both are married and pretty well settled. But if either one of my children had come to me in a situation where abortion might be involved, I would have to see the situation as personal, unique and individual. My children know about my experience. Of course I waited to tell them until they were old enough to understand. Neither one has been irresponsible or had to deal with this issue. I feel that I am older and wiser now. And my children have learned from my mistake. By telling them of my experience, I believe they were able to see the reality of the situation, and avoid it in their own lives. BTW they are very well-adjusted normal people. I can't say that this would be the result for anybody else. I can only speak for myself. I hope I have answered your question. C Kahn