To: Carolyn who wrote (6227 ) 11/14/1999 10:58:00 PM From: Joana Tides Respond to of 7442
Dear Friends on Techride, everyone's got different viewpoints from all perspectives, especially when it comes to those magicians who have the power to save lives, Doctors. We all see different angles and arrive at different conclusions, necessarily. There's no Absolute here, no reason to take a stand. Some outstanding Doctors, some terrible Doctors, some Moneygrubbers, some Servants of Humanity, Most Good, Some Bad, same/same as anything. All i know of medicine is Consumerside...got no Insider View of the Matter. What the individual experiences is often very different than the same experience of another individual at another time and place. I had a wonderful Doctor for years; told him when first started that HMO plan & met him, about my misgivings re: HMOs. Asked him what would happen if i or my child became seriously ill and the HMO denied treatment for whatever reason; could i pay for it privately or what?! In all soul-seriousness he looked right in my eyes and said "if they ever didn't approve treatment i'd give it to you regardless and work it out later. When it comes to maintaining health and saving lives; what an accountant at this HMO finds allowable has never gotten in the way of that. And it never will". Believed him 100%, A Lion With The Healing Hands. Thankfully, my daughter and i are in good health with good maintenance so far so good. My daughter's pediatricians have always been great too. But I've also had some Nightmarish experiences with Doctors when my elderly loved ones have been stricken with serious conditions like heart attacks, strokes, seizures, etc. I've seen the worst. How about an unfamiliar Doctor who looks at the patient from the doorway, checks something off on the chart, and then charges (the taxpayers, medicare pays it) a giant fee for 30 seconds of nothing? What was checked off, patient dead or alive? A Standard-Issue Moneygrubber Doc. I've seen medicines prescribed that interacted badly with other medicines as noted right there in the PDR. Once when (my Mother) experienced a very bad effect immediately from new medicine we called and were told "give it a few days". So i went to the library and found her medicines together right there in "Interactions Warnings", called the Doctor myself and tried to be as nice as i could about the way i asked him to prescribe something else. So there i was the next day, back at the library U better believe it. With "Give it a few days" she probably would've died. My Dad's Doctor was great for him til he was at Death's Door after stroke upon stroke. His mind was with him til the end though, he knew what was going on. Dad had signed a Living Will with his Attorney AND the hospital form too, didn't want his life automatically extended by any extreme measures to replace a breakdown of natural functions; standard. I was Medical POA, so his Doctor tried to get me to overturn My Dad's Legal and Re-Affirmed Wishes For Himself (which of course wasn't my place) by the most lowdown rotten repetition of vulturistic psych-guilt-manips anyone could ever imagine to have to endure at such a time. Her latest coursework was in "heart cath", how convenient and BTW mighty profitable too. I had to leave my sweater on the back of his bedside chair with snacks and a magazine there when i went home to care for my daughter - afraid of what might happen if this Doctor knew i wasn't right nearby, be back any minute. Putting such stress on our Family in our last days together was unconscionable but of course she would have had her justifications from her own point of view. She didn't get her way that time, but what about others she'd intimidate more easily; What about them? And does it make me a bad person, not volunteering to assist families to deal with such matters around death, because i'd be competent at it thru my experience then? Give me a break; that's not for me. So Please Dear Techride Friends, let's not argue anymore about Doctors. We've all seen many sides, who hasn't? 909s On Health Love Peace and Happiness, Joan