To: calgal who wrote (153857 ) 2/14/2000 9:16:00 AM From: Mick Mørmøny Respond to of 176387
*** OT *** LeighW: Will you be my funny valentine? Apparently, the e-roses were missent. But there will always be love in my thoughts of you today.:* :)Mick $$$ ________________________________Old Valentine's Day Letter Found LONDON (AP) 2/14/00 -- The message contained in a Valentine's Day letter Margery Brews sent to her fiance more than 500 years ago could have been written today: if you really loved me, you'd marry me. Brews' letter to John Paston, written on Feb. 14, 1477, in Norfolk, central England, is believed to be the earliest known Valentine's greeting. ''It seems some things remain the same ... Men still shy away from commitment, women still take care of the nitty-gritty of wedding arrangements,'' said Dr. Chris Fletcher, who found the letter in a 1930's collection of papers bought from the Paston family. The letter has belonged to the British Library archives for years and will be displayed at the library on March 10, the first time it has featured in a major exhibition. Fletcher said Brews' note, in black ink in an elaborate script, ''is thought to be the world's earliest known surviving Valentine greeting'' and illuminates the ''personal lives and general affairs of three generations of a family'' of the time. Brews' note begins pleasantly. ''Right reverent and worshipful and my right well-beloved valentine, I recommend me unto you full heartedly, desiring to hear of your welfare.'' It appears Paston's father, a Norfolk squire, was not impressed with the size of Brews' dowry, but she explains to her beloved that her mother is working on that: ''My mother hath labored the matter to my father full diligently, but she can no more get than you already know of, for which God knoweth I am full sorry.'' With apologies aside, Brews resorts to old-fashioned emotional blackmail. ''But if you love me, as I trust verily that you do, you will not leave me therefore. For even if you had not half the livelihood that you have, for to do the greatest labor that any woman alive might, I would not forsake you.'' It would seem Brews' message did the trick. She and Paston went on to marry and have two sons, Fletcher said. ''He was 33 when he married Brews, and had been on the hunt for a wife for some time,'' said Fletcher. Fletcher said both the Brews and Paston families were well-to-do ''landed gentry.'' The couple ''clearly loved each other,'' but had to contend with several family problems, including the dowry dispute, he said. ''John's older brother was not entirely happy with the arrangement, partly because their mother had given (John) a manor house to smooth the marriage.'' Although Brews insisted she wanted the letter to be private, it was actually penned by her family's clerk, Thomas Kela, in a curling, formal hand, and only initialed by her, Fletcher said. ''Obviously, Kela was very trusted, and was intimately involved in the negotiations.'' He said Brews appears to have been ''a subtle, literate, intelligent woman'' who was not above a bit of emotional manipulation.