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Pastimes : Let's Talk About Our Feelings!!! -- Ignore unavailable to you. Want to Upgrade?

To: pezz who wrote (76652)	4/2/2000 4:33:00 PM
From: Rambi	Respond to of 108807

Well, it seems to me, but then I always tend to look for what's common between my and other's opinions, that we agree on a lot of things! IN MY OPINION, I think it would have been inappropriate for you, who was neither the bio father or even a step-father, to bathe with the child. I want to be clear also that I like Lorrie a lot, I find her posts interesting, though sometimes I don't understand them, and I, who am also pretty intuitive, feel she is a very kind and good person. I especially admire her ability to read my comments and then go right back to other topics in a pleasant, even joking manner. But I also feel intuition is not fact, and that negative and hurtful "intuitions" which have no basis in fact are best kept to oneself. If Lorrie has "gut feelings" of concern for children, she has a great deal of company here. Most of us are parents. And our only point I think, well, at least mine, was to try to say hey, this act is not in and of itself abusive. Lots of people do it. It would have been better to ask a question about the practice or do some research first. BUt it's a really awful thing to suggest that a parent is capable of something like that. Outside of my husband, who did bathe with the boys, but we don't have a daughter, I didn't ask men directly. I DID ask however, what the mothers thought about it, and not one saw anything wrong with it. Most of my friends have boys, though, now that I think about it! However, we all felt that it was a very age dependent act, and should not go on very long. Under a year, no one had any reaction to it. After that, the opinions ranged from toddler to pre-school. No one thought it should go on after that. I was trying to remember my father's participation and he often gave us baths at night. I was probably 9 or 10 and becoming aware of my body when I told my mother that I felt funny and if he would stop and he did. I also took baths with my younger brother (a year younger) into elementary school and my memory of these is that we had great times. He had a boat and I had a cookie sheet that I put dollhouse furniture on and little plastic people and then he attacked them and we drowned them all with much screaming and drama.