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Pastimes : Let's Talk About Our Feelings!!! -- Ignore unavailable to you. Want to Upgrade?

To: epicure who wrote (79882)	5/25/2000 9:35:00 AM
From: Rick Julian	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 108807

This "action" stuff ignores the potency of emotion when coupled with a lack of action. For example, one of the most damaging things one can do to children is to ignore them. Let's say I didn't like my child. Let's say for whatever reason, I actually hated my child, but never stuck him/her, or never even raised my voice in anger. Don't you think my holding hatred would still yield a negative effect? Wouldn't that hatred inform my actions? Opening up all of manner of passive aggressive undercurrents in the relationship? I've interacted with families where there were no overt signs of hatred, and anger, but you could feel it--it seethed, and it is a very very toxic environment. Are you saying that because, in these families, no one acted out their hatred/hostility, there was no serious emotional damage being done?