To: Barnabus who wrote (31582 ) 9/23/2000 11:17:00 PM From: haqihana Respond to of 39621 Barnabus, When one is "dry", he is not, necessarily, sober. Until on becomes sober, there is always the danger of a slip which can last a day or two, or a shorten life span. I had been dry, thinking I was sober, from 1975 until 1981, when circumstance happened that made me think the answer was in the bottle. I quit again in 1991 when a bleeding ulcer blew it's top in my gut. That dry spell lasted for 3 years, when, again, I looked for escape in the bottle. In October of 1997, I was told I had cirrhosis of the liver, and could die as quickly as in 2 years. That made me realize that to drink again was just plain stupid. In the course of my treatment, I found out that very few alcoholics diagnosed with the disease actually stopped drinking. I know this may appear to be just another dry spell, but my new relationship with God, and Jesus Christ, has made me see things much more clearly, and my life has been directed in a new, and better, direction, and I have no fear of going back to the bottle. Unlike many members of the medical profession, I refuse to call alcoholism a disease because, one must make a conscious decision to turn to the bottle instead of face whatever problems he may have straight on like a man. I made the wrong, and a foolish, decision and am paying the piper dearly for having done so, but realize that what has happened to me, I have done to myself, and hold no grudges, and place no blame. As a result, my liver has improved in function, and has retained an adequate size to do it's work as the filtering system for the body. The doctors now say that I may live as long, or longer, than the normal life span. Your friend can look forward to the same good news, if he gets his head screwed on right. You must tell him that "trying" does not cut the mustard, and a goal of 3 years is not the way to go. One must decide, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that he will not take another drink. There is no such thing as tapering off. It must be a clean cut, and staying sober is something that must be done one day at a time. Each morning, he must make a pact with himself that he will not drink that day, and honor that agreement at all costs. Once a pattern of slipping begins, it is most difficult to get back on the "straight and narrow" but it can be done with the help of God, informed, and caring, people around him. He must not be "mollycoddled" but forced to face his demons head on. ~;=;o --haqi