To: abuelita who wrote (33276 ) 11/4/2000 8:24:24 PM From: elpolvo Read Replies (2) | Respond to of 35685 rosita lisa- nothing to do with hair, drinking or having opinions... (but you know that already - i can tell when you are being sarcastic) the reason "that thread" is moderated is to isolate it from two things, and ONLY two things... 1) spam and... 2) personal comments intended to belittle or make fun of another human being if anyone feels the need for expression via either of the above, then this porch thread, countless other unmoderated boards, or private messaging and email is a better and freer choice for them. you have in the past set your SI profile preferences to block others from sending you private messages. i imagine it's because of the same or similar reasons. i have no problem with that. as moderator of "that thread" i have no problem barring anyone either temporarily or permanently from posting on it if they belittle others in their posts (that's my job). those who object to that, don't post there (except to test the sincerity or the guts of the moderator). my personal door for PMs has always been open regardless of the content (but i'd close it if i felt like it). it seemed to me (and five others who PMed me) that bonnus and you were making fun of and belittling other people in your posts on "that thread". people were offended (in a way that seemed intentional) so "bang" you got barred. on the chance that it was unintentional, a misunderstanding on our part, or a playful "testing" of whether the thread was actually a moderated thread, the restriction was lifted in less than 24 hours. since then, bonnus has again posted disparaging personal remarks on "that thread" and has again been barred from posting there. you are still welcome to post there. your input and friendship is missed but it seems that you don't care to post there and that is perfectly ok too. i'm not writing this to suggest anything about how you may decide to act or re-act regarding anything. your path is yours and it's perfect for you. i'm just explaining my actions. it's been requested by both you and bonnuss. future posts or the absence of responses by me may seem like i'm trying to avoid confrontation - and that is exactly the case - some people enjoy confrontation and it suits them well. not me. i only have so much time left at this keyboard and there are so many more things i wish to participate in first before i begin confrontations - i've set aside a day in the year 2095 for fighting. :-) meanwhile, if you wish to continue debate on this topic i believe Ö¿Ö and some others would be happy to oblige you. no hard feelings, -polvie