To: Mama Bear who wrote (95103 ) 11/30/2000 12:34:09 AM From: TH Respond to of 769670 Barb, I will be clearer. First, I did not judge the action by the Boy Scouts. I stated that I thought this was a possible reason for their policy. I offered no reasons why a gay man wants to be in the Boy Scouts. If a gay man did not promote he was gay, and this implies that he has no interest in doing so with a Boy Scout, then I would have no reason for him to not be in the Boy Scouts. You see I don't judge people for what they choose to be. That is their right, as I see it. If there is a God I will leave the judging up to him (ok I make a small exception for Democrats -vbg-). "Did you have a tough time choosing when you came of age?" That one is easy. I had no trouble and it came as soon as someone explained "gay" to me. At the time I learned what gay was, it was not so much as I judged it wrong, sick, or unnatural, but just plain stupid. The idea of gay violates natural laws. Gays only live one generation and then poof they are gone. There is no debate about it. The self-exterminate and it is a choice they willingly make. Now that this rather tactless statement has been made, I offer the following. I view a person that is attracted to someone of the same sex not as bad or evil, but acting on a preference. I believe this is their right. It does not affect me in the slightest, so why should I have a concern? I realize that they have made this choice for reasons that I will never understand, and because I can never understand them I cannot make a judgement regarding their choice. It would be foolish to do so. Now it gets a bit more difficult as we have to open the can of worms. I tried not to do that, because it offends people and we have to use a word that I hate. So I won't. The bottom line is that you can do what you want, but if someone promoted it to my god daughter, I would have a problem, and I would do something about it. For example, if they were a teacher I would organize to have them removed. Several gays have approached me over the years and I have always politely refused, without causing damage to their self-image. Only one time was it ever a problem and it was with someone that I had to interact with who refused to accept that I was not willing to try something different. He was amusing so I tolerated it for the most part, but it was difficult sometimes too. To each his own. Have a good one. TH