To: Rarebird who wrote (327 ) 2/8/2001 1:45:34 PM From: Neenny Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 948 Rarebird.....it does not matter how long ago the abortion was. The one I am familiar with, was 21 years ago..... I did not want to put you on the defensive from the start, regarding my post. So, I had deleted my comment (before posting it) from that post, that I was willing to bet that you would not pass the information on to your wife. But you know, even if she would see herself in those questions...she would most likely never admit it to you. Being afraid you would not understand her emotions on the issue years later, when at the time you were in complete agreement with it. (which is a typical reaction) If you are so sure of your wife's emotions in this regard, show it to her, then you can scoff at it together. Or maybe it will give her a chance to speak for herself and not as part of "we". I am generalizing, as I do realize there are those women who have abortions and never look back. But the reality is also that there are women who have abortions believing it is the right thing to do, yet are totally taken off guard by the rush of emotions regarding the abortion that they feel immediately after or often times later in life... Please note, I did not condemn you or your wife for the choices you made. Nor did I do any name calling of what your beliefs are or where they originate in relation to this issue. What I posted to you earlier was in no way a lack of human responsibility...but maybe and act of human responsibility. The responsibility of acknowledging that women do struggle after abortion.....even when they believed it the right thing to do. The trauma of post-abortion is not about the Value Of Human Freedom. More likely the emotional cost for that freedom that some people pay. Jane