To: Neocon who wrote (132524 ) 3/21/2001 1:45:05 PM From: E Read Replies (3) | Respond to of 769667 This is the weirdest thread. Hard to believe, really. I got a PM with a link to this post of yours, Neocon, and this comment from an understandably appalled SI member who is gay <<<Classic Neocon. A CURE for a nonexistant illness? What is that? Engineering to create the people we want. Oh, but we won't kill you, we'll find a drug to fix you up the way we want you to be.>>> What's most odd is how little notice discussions of the tenor of yours and Pilch's get here. You wrote (and reading back a little, I see you are the representative in this argument, on this thread, for "tolerance"!), "Even granting that homosexuality is a defect ,..." "Until there is such a time that there is a reliable cure for homosexuality... I can see no other recourse than toleration , which means not taking every occasion to denounce....." Pilch wrote a whole lot of bizarre, medieval nonsense of this ilk:"A defect in sexual orientation represents a corruption of human identity and origin." To which your direct response was "Well, since I do not support the "normalization" of homosexuality, but only a reasonable degree of tolerance, I am not sure what we are arguing about." Maybe whether homosexuality is a "defect" that "represents a "corruption of human identity and origin" is worth arguing about. Or would be if one disagreed with the premise. Here's what I don't understand when I read this classic homophobic rhetoric. Why do you guys care who loves, and marries, whom? Why? Why do you think that isn't something that should be left up to the adult individual citizens involved? BTW, is heterosexual marriage in such great shape these days? Is anybody proposing to force you guys to marry someone of your own gender? People who love each other often want to get married, for both legal and emotional reasons. Perhaps to celebrate, to make a statement about their commitment to each other to their friends and the world. Just like straight people who are in love. Gay people fall in love, too. That's what is often forgotten by those fixated on their sexual organs. And they're citizens, too. I just do not understand it. Why on earth does any American citizen want to deprive any other American citizen of the right to marry the individual they love? It seems just so... mean. And so... profoundly intrusive. Medieval. I don't get it. Have you known any gay couples who have been together for decades? Life-long very happy, devoted, loving couples? Anyone who has known such couples would be hard pressed to tell them why they should have been blocked, or should be blocked now, from getting married. After all, the 18 year old boy and girl down the road got married last weekend when they were high and it seemed a good idea, and I don't hear anybody saying they shouldn't have had that right.