To: Ilaine who wrote (2802 ) 5/1/2001 12:05:38 AM From: sandintoes Read Replies (2) | Respond to of 25073 Hi CB; I know I'm way behind on this, but I felt so deeply about your post, I had to answer you. When you said you weren't the same problem as your son, I can assure you that you weren't. As the mother of both a boy and girls, it is irrefutable that there is a major difference between the sexes, and I'm not talking merely physical. Girls reaching puberty will be very emotional, wearing every emotion as a badge of honor, while boys keep it deep within themselves. They don't quite know how to react to what is going on both mentally and physically..little girls are born talking and expressing themselves, while little boys like to blow things up, and scare little girls. Bright boys seem to have the hardest time of all because, they do analyze what is changing, and in most cases, they don't like it. The girls their age are already developing, and getting taller, most boys, are dealing with their voices changing, and for a while that's about it. Boys really are caught in limbo for a long time. I know I worried twice as much about my son, as I did my daughters at that age...This changes when they hit about 16, then the girls take center stage in the worrying department, but boys still are a more complex animal. Reading the description of your son, opened the flood gates of memories of my own son...some good, some bad, but all interesting. When do they truly become their own person who understands reality in an unemotional, calm, detached manner? I guess with each child it is an individual stage of their life that can be achieve only when the child looks in the mirror one day, and says, "I know who I am, and I know where I want to go." It is only then that the confidence kicks in and the boy starts his long road to manhood, which most men never achieve. The most important thing you can do is maintain your sense of humor...and encourage him to practice his. Sometimes it is much harder than it sounds..this is where a good friend comes in to play for you...have a good trustworthy sounding board who will listen you your thoughts and ideas, and help you sort out what is important and what you should let go.. Little boys are the dearest things on earth, they just need more guidance than girls..The comparison between men and women will display this. Keep a diary, and laugh often, and most of all, good luck!