To: Lane3 who wrote (14742 ) 5/28/2001 7:05:27 PM From: 2MAR$ Respond to of 82486 This always seemed a very sensible and intriguing solution to the pressures of too much one-on-one that sometimes builds up between children and parents . On Huxely's Island , children are free to migrate, even encouraged to go live with their aunts and uncles , hehe (we are on a fantasy Island here, might as well have fun)"Escape," she explained, "is built into the new system. Whenever the parental Home Sweet Home becomes too unbearable, the child is allowed, is actively encouraged---and the whole weight of public opinion is behind the encouragement---to migrate to one of the other homes." "How many homes does a Palanese child have?" "About twenty on average." "Twenty? My God!" "We all belong," Susila explained, "to an MAC---a Mutual Adoption Club. Every MAC consists of anything from fifteen to twenty-five assorted couples. Newly elected brides and bridegrooms, old-timers with growing children, grandparents and great-grandparents---everybody in the club adopts everyone else. Besides our own blood relations, we all have our quota of deputy mothers, deputy fathers, deputy aunts and uncles, deputy brothers and sisters, deputy babies and toddlers and teen-agers." [...] "Nothing," she assured him, "could be less like a commune than an MAC. An MAC isn't run by the government, it's run by its members. And we're not militaristic. We're not interested in turning out good party members; we're interested in turning out good human beings. We don't inculcate dogmas. And finally we don't take the children away from their parents; on the contrary, we give the children additional parents and the parents additional children. [...]" Huxely was a classic ! But sometimes , very seriously it does seem so incredibly harmful for children to be raised in society in a fierce one-on-one death spiral struggle with one set of parents...or all to often only one completely overwhelmed single parent . On "Island" the duties of parenting are shared . ;-)