To: Mike Buckley who wrote (44587 ) 7/19/2001 10:13:27 AM From: Bruce Brown Respond to of 54805 I want to thank Mike for that post. It indeed has been a difficult year for my family that offers pause and reflection where one simply has to shake their head and ask "what next?". Life is indeed filled with uncertainty and randomness. I appreciate your comments and agree with your words and advice for the thread: "none of us should be so arrogant as to feel so certain about anything" . I want to take a moment to thank all of you who sent condolences. I didn't have time to log back on to SI until this morning (Thursday AM) to read them all. I just finished reading them and was deeply touched by all of your thoughts and comments. My heartfelt thanks for the support. I didn't get a chance to talk to any of my friends in Vienna before departing, so it was nice to receive the support from this group. I only hope I can return such support in the future to others in times of need. The details of the murder are indeed disturbing, but the family and the community are rallying around the direction of taking positive action rather than withdrawing into any dark submission. Following the private viewing for the family, the funeral on Tuesday was a lovely celebration of Cameron's life (except that the church was designed to seat only 300 and 600 showed up). His baseball team as well as the team of his younger brother were both there in uniform and quite a few teenagers from the school where my nephew attended were present. In terms of my worries about being able to sing at the service and not choke up during the song - my mother always said that between here and heaven, music gets purified and sounds much better. She reminded me of that before the service began and the comfort it would offer to those listening. With that in mind, I closed my eyes, bowed my head and made it through Amazing Grace. My sister and her other son are doing quite well at the moment considering the circumstances. In case anyone is interested, here are a couple of links about my deceased nephew, Cameron, and a foundation the family is busy this week organizing which will be designed in the hopes that we can save other teens from acts of violence as well as offer help to victims of violence and their families. The 17 year old offender was neither a student nor was he employed. It appears he is one of those that 'fell through the cracks' and left home at age 12. Of course, it's unfortunate for us that he showed up on the doorstep of my sister's house. Other than that, I can't offer any details of the unprovoked attack. Whatever the charge ends up being (first or second degree murder), the 17 year old will spend his remaining days in prison. In essence, two lives have been lost. Teen remembered:rapidcityjournal.com Teens Against Violence link:rapidcityjournal.com Thanks to all for the kind words. I will continue to remain with my family this week and piddle around doing whatever I can to help. Fixing air conditioners, mowing lawns, cleaning houses, changing oil in cars, answering the phone and visiting with the steady stream of people that stop by the house each day. Once things simmer down a bit, I will return to Vienna where my wife and I have invited my sister to come visit us this summer to offer a change of environment. BB