To: Constant Reader who wrote (22401 ) 8/16/2001 3:51:24 PM From: jlallen Respond to of 82486 To tell you the truth, I didn't think X was really even involved in the latest "fight." I saw it pretty much as a third-party dispute between Poet and CH. While I am genuinely sorry that CH's remarks disturbed X, I do think she needs to develop thicker skin if she wants to indulge in wisecracks about others. No doubt. However, I found it strange that your analysis of CH's postings had prompted such criticism in light of the posting style of XXX which I have not seen you criticize so vehemently. I happen to agree with CH although I can not prove it definitively that XXX tends to work much of her mischief in PMs and not directly. I suspect this relates to what I agree is XXX's thin skin.In my opinion, many people do like to pile up on X, but her public persona invited, even welcomed, that hostility. That doesn't give the rest of us a license to be cruel. Cruel? Suppose that depends how you define that term. My own thought is that if you post to invite comment, you had best be prepared to defend yourself vigorously and expect some rough treatment on these Coffee Shop threads.Finally, I credit your criticism of my posts a couple of years ago for helping me understand that third-party attack posts really are distasteful. I'm not sure that I still wholly agree that "third party" posts are necessarily evil, especially given the liberal (no pun intended) use that some posters make of the Ignore feature. Some posters will post the most outrageous, vile, claptrap and hide behind the Ignore feature. In such cases, one sometimes has no other avenue to respond effectively. In any event, I continue to be amused by the frequent use of "third party" postings by those who claim to abhor them..... JLA