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To: ratan lal who wrote (7617)10/26/2001 2:06:22 AM
From: Bilow  Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 281500
 
Hi ratan lal; Re: "I mean really picture it. You see people cutting off your mother's nose to steal her ring. You cant do anything at the time. What goes on thru your mind throughout the rest of your life whenever you think about it."

Unfortunately, this is what passes for more or less normal human behavior. But there are more options than the ones you listed. Whenever I begin to feel sorry for myself I reread certain books that chronicle horrible things that have happened to others. Then I feel lucky to have the life that I do. It sounds like your horror is also the feeling of helplessness, the books I reread wouldn't do you any good.

Web site for the South African Truth and Reconciliation commission:
truth.org.za

For example:

...
I got curious and then I asked her, how do you know my mother, she explained to me how she know - she knew her. So I told - I asked her what happened to my mother for her to be burned like that in Colesberg, so she told me what happened. I wasn’t satisfied, the reason why I am here, I want the Commission to help me - to help me try and find out why they killed my mother. Because to me this is a wound that will never heal. That’s where I will end.
...
My wish from the Commission is that my mother would be buried where she was born, and I would like us to get the house back, our own house back.
...

truth.org.za

Another place, another time:

...
I realized that if I became filled with hatred, bitterness, self-pity, and desire for revenge, I would remain a victim forever. It would consume me. It would eat me alive. God and people of faith and hope enabled me to make my bombing redemptive -- to bring the life out of the death, the good out of the evil. I was enabled to grow in faith, in commitment to justice in compassion.

Yes, I do grieve, and will always grieve, especially for my hands. At times I experience great frustration. It is not easy to cope with being stared at wherever you go. However, I am no longer a victim, nor even simply a survivor, I am a victor over evil, hatred, and death.
...

pacinfo.com

-- Carl