To: Maurice Winn who wrote (14459 ) 2/4/2002 10:52:24 PM From: Ilaine Respond to of 74559 I don't think I have it particularly tough. I used to laugh at the people who told me that I should pretend to be dumb otherwise I'd intimidate all the men and never get married, but eventually married a man who loves my mind, and we've got a couple of very bright children, and will celebrate our 22nd anniversary this year. I am superstitious enough to worry about attracting the attention of the Fates so I'll leave it at that. As for the relative fortunes of men and women in the world, my understanding is shaped by many years of representing men, women and children in family court. Not all women have hard working husbands who love them for their better qualities nor lovely homes nor professional degrees nor intellectual freedom. Many women in America work like dogs at dead end jobs and take care of young children all by themselves because they did not have the self esteem and foresight to tell the sexy selfish cads to go stick it into someone else nor did they have the strength of purpose to finish their schooling when it meant working all day and going to night school (which is tough, I did it for many years, but at least I only did it with children for a year or two, and with children only part time, thank God). But they are luckier than their sisters in third world countries who get married and then have too many children by men who think that their masculinity is measured by how many children they father, not how many they can raise well. I know what it's like to have a father who doesn't believe that his daughters need a college education - can't imagine what it's like to have a father and mother and culture who don't believe women need education, period. Most people work hard, but some have to clean house after work, too, with a child on either hip, and other children pulling on their shirt tails asking for something to eat. Compared to them, my life is like heaven on earth. As for religion, I never argue about religion. I am a monotheist. I believe that God created the Universe, but is different from the Universe. Yes, God created an evolving Universe. I believe that God is beyond our comprehension. I do not believe in fate. Vis-a-vis Male Answer Syndrome, Fred may be Exhibit #1.;^)