To: epicure who wrote (48635 ) 5/29/2002 10:57:36 PM From: Solon Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 82486 "I think you need to ask yourself if you would be this protective of a man " I don't know that I have been so "protective". I intruded on this issue over a small number of posts that I believed required the expression of opinion. One was the taunt which came immediately after a polite spousal request. You have spent some time on the thread. I don't know that you stopped or influenced the inevitability of people expressing their feelings and opinions. You did express yours, and I respect and consider them always... I have tried hard to avoid the thread. Naturally I had no problem with your rightful expression of opinion here when others had left... You do not know what Average Joe's motivation was. Neither do I. Neither of us could ever know with certainty. I remembered in a general manner his last hundred or so posts to Poet, and the hostility, snideness, and cheap shots that had been expressed...and I took a guess. Maybe I was wrong. He might just be frustrated because this issue detracts from all the other substantive posts he has been making on this thread day after day. So yes..I may be wrong. I am sure you despise this "tinkering" of lives for the sake of alliances, ego, aggrandisement, and so forth. Surely you know me well enough to know that the set, setting, and process annoy me, as well. But I must have my say on this thread just as you have had. Everything except a couple of posts have been said publicly on my part. I don't like backroom alliances or plots. "Would I be this protective of a man?" I have been very protective of CH even though I have only the reason that I think he is worthy of human treatment. As for objectivity: who can be objective with children and friends and cherished beliefs? I try to be objective. If, in this instance, I do not meet the standards attained by you...perhaps there are situations where I would have done as well or better. There is a difference between just being right and being effective. I am sure you have heard the old doggerel about William Jay... Would I be this protective of a man? I don't think I have been "protective". But I have tried to be honest. I believe I would try to be honest in expressing my opinions for you and yours were you feeling oppressed or mistreated. Perhaps, in the past, I have...