To: epicure who wrote (51568 ) 6/20/2002 12:33:42 PM From: The Philosopher Read Replies (2) | Respond to of 82486 it seems some people did NOT get that distinction between tolerance and acceptance I'm not so sure. I think rather that there are people who believe that there are some lifestyles that should neither be accepted nor tolerated. The question becomes whether homosexual parenting is one of those. (Homosexual parenting as opposed to practicing homosexuality -- in the latter case it is only the adults involved who are affected; in the former, children who have no voice in the matter are affected. So a distinction can be made there.) We have seen, in the Catholic church, the consequence of tolerating without accepting certain activities. Let me say immediately, though I'm sure there are some who will accuse me of this, that I'm not saying that homosexual parents are abusing children, or that the abuse in the Church is based on homosexuality. The only point I'm making is that for years, while claiming not to accept abuse of young children, certain church elders did knowingly tolerate it. In that case, I hope it's clear, there should have been neither acceptance NOR toleration. So I think we can say that there are certain activities where both toleration and acceptance are appropriate, some where acceptance may reasonably be withheld but tolerance should be extended, and some where neither acceptance nor tolerance are appropriate. If one sees homosexual parenting as of the third category, that doesn't necessarily mean they don't understand the distinction between acceptance and toleration, but it may mean that they understand the distinction but think this is an area in which it should not apply.