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To: goldworldnet who wrote (282967)	8/1/2002 7:16:44 PM
From: asenna1	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 769670

Uh huh. Sure it does. I've never ever heard of a long-time married man or woman who was actually gay. Never. Well, almost never... - - - - - "He can't be gay, he is married!"? "No one knows the statistics of marriages where one partner or the other is gay, but it happens far more frequently than society would lead us to believe. In the majority of cases, the straight spouse might be totally unaware of the true sexuality of their partner." geocities.com

To: goldworldnet who wrote (282967)	8/1/2002 7:20:08 PM
From: asenna1	Respond to of 769670

And maybe you should chat with "him" about your homophobia. Might be a nice ice-breaker.

To: goldworldnet who wrote (282967)	8/1/2002 7:30:19 PM
From: asenna1	Respond to of 769670

Perpetual Closet-Men Living la Vida Limbo Let's discuss married gay men who won't leave the marriage or for that matter, won't leave the closet. This is a subject that can never be talked about enough because it seems to be a stumbling block for so many of us who can't get our husbands to "come clean" with the truth about their homosexuality. I receive so many letters each month from women who are sure about their husbands but fear confronting them. But I also get letters from women who do confront their husbands with evidence in hand and get denials with distorted truths giving excuses such as "Those pictures belonged to a co-worker," or "I have no clue how those websites got on our computer." For those women whose husbands eventually tell you the truth, count yourselves as lucky even though you may not feel that way at the time. No doubt hearing the word gay is devastating, but not hearing it is even worse. This month alone, I have received 32 letters from women who asked me for advice because their husbands or ex-husbands will not admit to their homosexuality. These women know the truth. They have stumbled on it one way or another. It has smacked them in the face through hidden websites, email, pornography, letters, hotel receipts, phone bills, etc. And yet, their husbands just keep lying or denying. They are not ready to be honest--and may never be ready. Some men will never be ready to accept their homosexuality because it is too painful or embarrassing. These are the men whom I call the "Limbo Men." Their whole lives are lived in limbo. They are emotionally straight, but physically gay. They never feel totally comfortable in either world, but they are much more comfortable "passing" in the straight world where they are accepted as part of mainstream society. All married gay men go through "limbo" for a period of time. In otherwords, they are stuck in between both worlds hoping that by wanting the straight world badly enough they will be able to "cross over" into it. They keep thinking that if they play the role long enough, they will become transformed into the part, not just play the part as an actor. But the Limbo Men I place in this category are different from other gay men who eventually come to terms with themselves. They are even different than the gay men who are staying in their marriages but who acknowledge they are gay, at least on some level. The real Limbo Men have no sense of remorse for what they are doing to their wives. In fact, they often feel as if they are the victims and strike back at their wives in an emotional or physically abusive manner. They blame their wives for their unhappiness and never have a clue about the damage they are doing to these women whom they promised to love, cherish, and respect. They place the blame of their unhappiness on their wives, when in fact, there is nothing that their wives could possibly do to make them feel happy or fulfilled. Their wives are women, and they are gay men. These are the men who will never leave their marriages. They will stay there until the day they die, leading a painful existence and sharing that pain with their wives. More specifically, pouring that pain upon their wives. We all know that misery loves company, and these men are happy to make you as miserable as they are. So often, these "Limbo Men" husbands luck out. They have wives who are much kinder and more understanding than average. These are the women who will keep trying every little trick in the book thinking someday they will get their husbands hooked. The women live an accepted existence, looking for the crumbs in the marriage while trying to turn those crumbs into a cake. It is truly a tragedy and waste of human life. members.fortunecity.com Keep staring at those pics on Doc's desk.