To: epicure who wrote (55906 ) 8/30/2002 11:45:02 AM From: The Philosopher Read Replies (3) | Respond to of 82486 The issue is, and continues to be, that you believe Ch is different Actually, I'm not sure that is the main issue with jla. He was concerned about my activities with Poet, but not with bitterness or such personal bile, until he tried to broker a deal and I rejected it. Up to that point, we were able to discuss the issues, there was a minimal amount of namecalling, there was dialogue. But when I rejected his attempts to force me to act the way he wanted me to, that's when he turned on me. Whether it was hurt pride at failing publicly to get me to follow his lead, whether it was resentment that I didn't fall into obedience, or what it was I don't know. But from that point, it ceased to be about Poet, and became about jla. Which leads me to conclude that he probably isn't a very good lawyer. Because one of the first things a good lawyer learns is not to make the client's cause your own personal cause. One must be both passionate and dispassionate at the same time. jla clearly hasn't mastered this. A a second thing good lawyers know is that in human interactions, things are never all-black and all-white. The good lawyer recognizes that there is some right and some wrong on both sides of the case. This, too, is something jla has shown he doesn't understand. He demonizes his enemy, which is never productive and is very corrosive to the person doing the demonizing. Clients do this all the time. But lawyers need to learn not to. It's a failing which weak lawyers fall into, and which good lawyers learn not fall into. jla has clearly fallen into it. Finally, good lawyers learn is to focus on solving problems, not throwing mud. Weak lawyers think that if they throw enough mud, they have accomplished something. Good lawyers know quite the opposite. It's a pity, because if jla were a good lawyer, we could work out our differences in an adult manner, which would be good for us and good for BB. But obviously that's not his agenda.