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Politics : Sharks in the Septic Tank -- Ignore unavailable to you. Want to Upgrade?

To: The Philosopher who wrote (65143)	10/31/2002 5:27:09 PM
From: one_less	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 82486

"They, of course, can never repent, but I have to decide whether to live with hatred for the rest o fmy life, or not." I agree that it is in your best interest to let your hatred for the person go. There is no benefit in harboring a grudge against a dead person. I am near the Columbine High School where Eric Harris and Dillon Kleobold murdered so many of their fellow students. Fortunately I did not know any of the victims. However, if my own beloved daughter had been one of the victims I would still stand when the caskets of Harris and Kleobold passed before me. They are creatures of God as am I. There lives are done they will be Judged by the only one qualified. I have no say in condemning them or forgiving them from here to eternity. It is a done deal. There is no hope for me to reconcile with the boys and no need to fret over it. If I had losses it would be necessary for me to accept that and move on without carrying any baggage related to those boys. There is nothing to repair since the lives of the boys no longer have an impact on me...they are dead...and gone...period...lets move on. I see a clear difference in forgiving souls (I'm not qualified) and forgiving a personal offense. A personal offense creates debt or at least an imbalance in the relationship that calls for a return. Death resolves all debt and imbalance...the relationship is over. I understand how you are using the word forgiveness in this context. Its just that by doing so you confuse the issue of bringing relationships into reconciliation. If you can find a way to separate this it would be much simpler for you. There is letting go of things that are simply done...and then there is repairing things. Both may involve deep emotional need and in both cases they need resolution to be able to carry on and thrive as a heathy human being. We don't just forgive people who are perpetrating harm to us without repairing the relationship. We may decide to just move on but that is a matter of accepting the conditions (a bad debt). Not the same as forgiving which makes things totally OK.