To: The Duke of URL© who wrote (174230 ) 4/25/2003 1:15:52 PM From: Amy J Read Replies (2) | Respond to of 186894 Hi Duke and Thread, great post: You said to Carl, "DO NOT CONFUSE DISCLOSURE AND CONTROL OF COMPENSATION AGREEMENTS WITH their financial and tax effect." I think that's exactly the issue. I agree with you totally. But how can the information be better disclosed and how can compensation be better controlled - it does tend to creep up and up. I think it's because of the "survey method." On a completely different note, my Dad *spoke* with me last night and is he doing really good. He's able to talk now. (He was speaking words here and there, even a sentence, but he now can do several paragraphs pretty well.) The only (visible) impact is he cannot walk at the moment but that's temporary I believe (it's due to inefficient oxygen to the legs I was told while on a ventilator for several months, apparently common, I read it happened to some Sars patients too that were on ventilators). He had around a 10% to 15% chance to live, and he fought very hard, and made it. It's so great to be able to talk to him again. His next "project" (my Dad always has a zillion projects, so this one has been labeled a "project"), is to walk - and he's working on that and I expect he will soon. One thing worth mentioning, that happened while he was in the hospital - the doctors thought he wasn't going to be cognizant when all this was done due to all of the operations, infection, etc, but there was a point when my sister walked into our Dad's hospital room and when she sat down, he seemed to be pointing to the tv with his eyes (he couldn't talk then because the ventilator impacted talking & swallowing). The nurses didn't think it meant anything (in fact, they probably thought it was a sign he was not cognizant), when in fact, he was being very smart and very much on top of things - he was indicating to my sister that her favorite show was on! and trying to suggest she could sit down and enjoy herself. (Just like my Dad to put other people's needs first, even at a critical time for himself.) Fortunately, my sister, who is a very sensitive person, knew what my Dad was trying to "say". She held firm when she told the doctors & nurses he was cognizant. They didn't believe her, but she held firm. I'm glad she did, because I tend to think that influenced some of the good treatment he had. At a minimum, it helped everyone be more encouraged. It feels GREAT to be able to hear him talk again. It was our first real conversation since he got ill in October. I wasn't sure if we'd have that chance to talk again. His energy is still a bit low, but he made it through quite an ordeal. He's progressing quite well. Hearing my Dad talk yesterday, made me feel like there's still magic in the world and so much to be happy for. I feel like we got our Dad back. I feel very, very lucky. Regards, Amy J