To: Berry Picker who wrote (35366 ) 6/2/2003 12:56:18 PM From: MJ Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 39621 Elect My mother, bless her soul, was the oldest of 11 children. She diapered most of them---all home births. Played center on the women's high school basketball team in the 1920's. And, she was a devout Christian. And, of course the stories they all had to tell were humorous----sad etc. Our dining table always had someone sitting and eating at it-----our family----aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends. She died in 1995 on June 2 at 85 years of age----so no surprise that my heart feels heavy today. She had alzheimers in the last three years and I was the only one that she knew. Her last year was spent in a nursing home. For this I am greatful that she had no longer in the home. In our last conversation, I ask her if she would like me to read to her from the Bible-----and her response was-----"No, I already know everything Paul said.'" I had a trip to China planned to study Chi Gong----so i told her and she said "Well,dam it get out of here!" She never cursed before. I hugged her and knew that this was the last words I would hear from her. After a month I returned-----and two days after my return she died. When she died----- I was sitting and having a single beer and went into the deepest relaxed state I have ever felt. My brother called and she had died. I know that that relaxation I felt was her letting go of her body(her soma)and only slightly induced by the single beer. I know that one will be taken and another is born. So I rejoice in your daughters birth. My advice is to treat her like a princess, teach her to be independent and follow her passions in life, whether it be the stock market, being an engineer, a nurse, teacher, musician, athlete, mother or whatever. You seem to be handling your family very well. Another little piece of advice----sometimes it helps to enter the fray of activity and not stand back from it----can be energizing. mj