To: RR who wrote (58830 ) 7/31/2003 4:51:22 PM From: Sully- Read Replies (1) | Respond to of 65232 Rick, I'm not a gloom & doom type. I'm a glass is half full type. No doubt the last few years has tested me mightily as I've been hit with a number of unfortunate things. I've been down right despondent at times & had something new smack me down further. Somehow, I've still managed to pick myself up, dust myself off & start moving forward. No doubt some of that has been seen in some of my postings here on SI. But I've still managed to regain a positive outlook on life in the end. Heck, there have been times when I felt like throwing in the towel..... yet, out of nowhere my blues would disappear & my mood would brighten on it's own...... it's just not in my nature to be down & out. One thing my dad taught me well is about personal resposibility. Sometimes circumstances can knock you down & keep hitting you before you can get off the floor. Sooner or later you have to make up your mind that you're not going to stay there & let it get the best of you..... cause if you do, what's there to look forward to??? You only get one chance at life. There ain't any do overs. I've always looked at it this way...... you can find solutions or you can make excuses. If you decide to be solution oriented, you will see problems as an opportunity to be solved. If you are excuse oriented, you see & often create problems, sometimes where none really exist. The excuse oriented use problems, real or imagined, as an excuse to sit around & bitch & moan. Solution oriented folks tend to be the successful ones. No doubt I've allowed circumstances to keep me down recently. I've even allowed excuses to keep me down. But that doesn't last for long. Somehow that inner self manifests itself & brings me back to focus properly again. I did have help this time however. Your post about your wife reminded me of how much my wife has been such an angel since my knee surgery & the lower back problems that hit me out of the blue. It really incapacitated me & left me in pain 24/7. My orthopedic surgeon didn't paint much of a bright picture for how much my knee would improve. My primary care physician was talking about injections & possible surgery for those narrowed disks in my back if therapy didn't improve things. My wife was all over the internet learning about various knee braces, glucosamine & such. She makes sure I take my glucosamine & prescriptions every day. She found a knee brace designed for meniscus injuries. She forced me to practically wear heating pads until I cooked was medium rare, then she'd ice me down. She makes sure I do my rehab exercises every day. She got us memberships at eh WMCA so I could use their pool for water exercises, etc., etc., etc. She has been reason enough for me to get over my blues & get back to finding solutions to my problems. As you can see Rick, I'm also quite a lucky guy.