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To: Machaon who wrote (21050)	8/23/2003 1:10:20 PM
From: SirVinny	Respond to of 21614

"You continually post lies and false articles. " Bobby, Bobby, Bobby, you really do feel persecuted. Were you dropped as a child or did your mommy throw you down purposely?

To: Machaon who wrote (21050)	8/23/2003 1:19:12 PM
From: SirVinny	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 21614

Bobby, your anger may not be entirely your fault. Take a look at this. Keep in mind we're only trying to help: guidetopsychology.com As trauma after trauma batters you, you will begin to say, “Why me? This isn’t fair!” You will blame anyone who gets in your way. You will feel like an innocent victim being persecuted by the world. You might even become a psychological terrorist. But because you can’t look at your responsibility in what is happening, you will develop a victim mentality, and you will have fallen into victim anger. A careful distinction must be made here in regard to “naturally” repeated child abuse and repetition. A child who is abused is not at fault, and it cannot be claimed that the child has any responsibility for the abuse. But there is a psychodynamic process called Identification with the Aggressor in which the abused child grows so accustomed to the abuse that, in trying to make sense of something essentially senseless, comes to believe that the abuse is justified. And, with this belief in place, blame and anger toward the abuser becomes turned toward the self, thus beginning the repetition of an unconscious, self-inflicted abuse. Scientific research has in fact shown that adults who were sexually abused as children tend to have a high risk for sexual assault (e.g., rape) as adults, and that adult sexual assault victims tend to have even lower levels of mental health functioning than those persons who were only sexually abused as children (i.e., not revictimized).[1] So what’s going on here? Well, it’s largely a matter of misdirected blame. Here’s how it works, in common-sense language: 1. As a result of abuse, the child experiences painful fear and anger. 2. But because the child feels essentially powerless to stop the abuse or to convince anyone to help, the child begins to perceive the whole world as “unfair.” 3. The child blames the world for being unfair, and, at the same time, begins to blame himself or herself for not being “good enough” to put up a successful fight against the world. 4. The child learns that blaming the world does not provide any immediate gratification, and that punishing the world is not an easy task, but that blaming the self—and punishing the self—can provide immediate and controlled satisfaction. 5. But because this self-destructive behavior is unconsciously directed against the world, not the self, the child cannot see, let alone accept consciously, that he or she is now causing most of his or her own pain. 6. And so the child grows into an adult who harbors an aching bitterness against the world for its unpunished abuses. But at every disappointment he or she will find some convenient, secret means of self-sabotage—and will then feel justified in saying, “Look what they did to me! It’s not fair!”