To: one_less who wrote (73206 ) 8/25/2003 12:34:44 PM From: The Philosopher Respond to of 82486 You make excellent points, though I think they will fall on deaf ears. Exclusion is essential for the functioning of any society or organization. Colleges exclude students all the time in their application processes. I'm sure Karen's swim club excludes lots and lots of people. If it didn't, the pool would be overfilled and she would have no chance to swim her laps. Retirement communities exclude people. Of course, people will say that these exclusions are based on reasonable grounds. The colleges only have so many spaces, and try to pick those students who will best contribute to the college. (But if you have sat on admissions committees, as I have, you know that exclusion is strong -- depending on the institution they may exclude at the get-go up to 75% of their applicants with just a glance at their application. And as was done a century ago, at least some of those are excluded because of their race. But then they were excluded because they were black; now they're excluded because they're NOT black.) Karen't swim club excludes those who can't afford to pay the dues, as well as those who could afford them but don't think they're worth it. Economically based exclusion doesn't seem to bother her, or at least not enough that she gives up her swim club membership. Retirement communities exclude people on a variety of bases, both economic and ageism and often family status -- no kids allowed even if the child is a grandchild who is permanently living with a grandparent because the parents are dead. If Karen has ever invited anybody over to dinner, she has excluded everybody she didn't invite, including you and me. How can she justify being so exclusionary? And maybe she's excluding you because of your ethnicity? Horrors! There is, in short, nothing wrong with exclusion. We all do it. We all have to do it. Our lives would be impossible without it. Why is it that, at least on this thread, apparently only men are able to understand this, or are able to face reality?