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Politics : Sharks in the Septic Tank -- Ignore unavailable to you. Want to Upgrade?

To: one_less who wrote (74462)	9/11/2003 4:47:16 PM
From: E	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 82486

As you can probably tell, it's a true story. The boy is going to private school next year. He is a relation of my daughter-in-law. I know him and his parents. Actually, I haven't seen him in a almost two years. I guess he's ten or eleven now. J is an only child. The mother started late, and they failed to have a second child despite fertility treatments. The fact that they are unlikely to ever have grandchildren is a source of sadness to them. They are traditional, church-going Catholics. It's very hard for his parents. They just this year actually talked openly about the situation to the family, every single member of which has known since J was two or three. You couldn't not know. J has always, since infancy, been just like a very feminine little girl. (Though physically he's bigboned and handsome.) He'd drape the ribbons from Christmas presents on his hair and toddle to the mirror starting at around two. Everythign was like that. He would put on his girl cousins' clothes. But his parents will love him and try to do what's right for him. Last year they let him sign up for ballet and ice skating, the only "sports" of which he wasn't afraid. The most telling thing is that all the cousins, the little children, have "known" that J was not like the boy cousins since they were all babies, really. The presents they get for J, just naturally, when I take them all to the dollar store, are long artificial nails, glitter for the skin, tattoo transfers, lip gloss. They're innocent! They just know what their cousin J will like!... for all the other boy cousins, it's all boy stuff, water pistols, cars, that sort of thing. Why would they get that for J? It's very matter of fact for the children. Nothing scientists could ever tell me changes the fact that all J's little cousins, who love him, know he's gay without knowing what "gay" is. To them, he's just J. He likes to wear ribbons in his hair and fingernail polish and borrow the girls' clothes, and he always has. They are very envious that he's becoming a good ice skater. It's hard for J's parents, but they will do the right thing and try to raise him not to hate himself. A gay child is very, very lucky to have a large, loving, loyal extended family. If anybody made J cry when his male cousins were around... Well, they'd only do it once.