Silicon Investor (SI) -- The First Internet Community

STOCKTALK

We've detected that you're using an ad content blocking browser plug-in or feature. Ads provide a critical source of revenue to the continued operation of Silicon Investor. We ask that you disable ad blocking while on Silicon Investor in the best interests of our community. If you are not using an ad blocker but are still receiving this message, make sure your browser's tracking protection is set to the 'standard' level.

Politics : Sharks in the Septic Tank -- Ignore unavailable to you. Want to Upgrade?

To: Solon who wrote (74736)	9/15/2003 2:44:39 PM
From: one_less	Read Replies (1) \| Respond to of 82486

”Such as is exhibited by one who is too sexually hung-up to do his job. You have a way out. Just refuse to judge clients on the basis of their color or gender or fill in the blank.” The man does not need a “way out.” He has developed his career so that there is no need to make any kind of judgments about people. He presumes, correctly, that women and homosexual men may get turned-on sexually by the intimacy of his treatment. He has also determined that it is not necessary to put him self in this type of compromising situation. You have a problem with that. There is no evidence that the man is sexually “hung up,” or that he is not able to do his job. Quite to the contrary. He does his job, he does it well as evidenced by the satisfaction of clients and the success of his business, he likes his work and values his contribution to the community. The man is a mature hetero sexual male. He likes women and has a wholistic attitude about communicating with women and homosexual men. He associates with women and homosexual men in the community much the same as any other person does when being involved through incidental contact. You have a problem with the boundaries he sets for himself, so that he can perform his occupation with confidence that he is not being sexually compromised. You are hung on this as a sexual issue. You want him to include women and homosexual men in his clientele because you defined it as part of his job, over his objections. You have at least acknowledged that some people participate in massage therapy because they like being stroked and rubbed by someone who is sexually attractive. There is, of course, no way to know which people these are unless they come on to the therapist. I suspect that this would be the minority. You demand that the man employ a sexual switching mechanism so that he can massage women and homosexual men and assure you that it will always be an asexual experience...because good training would make it so, right? Massage therapy is a very intimate and physical form of communication. As with all forms of communication, the level of control you have over your involvement and understanding is significantly greater than with the one you are communicating with. Boundaries are practically non-existent in massage therapy. And as with all other forms of communication the experience is not totally under control of one or the other persons involved. Your discomfort with the massage therapist is a very sexually hung issue. He has to a great extent eliminated it as an issue. You have resorted to comparing it with life and death issues and name calling. I would say, it is very revealing but since it is you, it’s nothing new. It seems like some sort of misplaced advocacy for women and homosexual men, but you haven’t made a case for it.