To: Nadine Carroll who wrote (6472 ) 1/6/2004 9:54:07 AM From: ChinuSFO Read Replies (2) | Respond to of 15987 Arab custom in Egypt and Jordan today says that a rape victim must die to wipe out family dishonor. Nadine, it is the custom. Is it a part of the Sharia? I don't think so. As I said earlier, Muhammad worked with the bedouins who had very strange customs. It will take some time before the Muslim societies evolve. Denigrating them would in no way help to improve them. Now with regard to divorce, it is a sensitive topic no doubt. And I agree with you that it is better that what other countries do to womenfolk such as wife burning for failure to give dowry etc. etc. I can go on and on in that direction. But my point is that when we denounce other societies, we need to be cognizant of the shortcomings in our society too. I live in a heavily Muslim community in the US, not a Muslim myself. When we see growing young Muslim women go around in their hijab and be subject to ridicule, that should not be tolerated. When a forth grader Muslim student comes home crying telling his parents that other kids won't play with him because he is a Muslim, that is the beginning of the disintegration of the US. These things happening in our schools is because of discussions taking place between adult members at our dining table. I realize that I hurt the feelings of many folks when I raised the issue of adultery and divorce, and I apologize for that. It was not my intent. However, I would hope that those who felt hurt would also realize how it hurts others when their faith and lifestyles are denigrated through stereotyping. And yes we are better as as society in many respects, but let us also say that we are not the best.