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To: Jacques Chitte who wrote (65662)	10/29/2004 8:12:29 AM
From: Rambi	Read Replies (2) \| Respond to of 71178

Cruelty is a whole different level. I'm so sorry that Helen is having to go through that (and you, too). Have you talked with the teacher to see if she can help, if she's noticed anything? Does she have a couple of friends of her own to turn to? I have always thought little girls were terribly cruel. They ostracize and humiliate and it seems to start earlier than it does with boys. Not having girls, I feel very inadequate around them. They scare me. "In crowds" are a terrible fact of life for kids, and the very bright child, which I am guessing Helen is, is often chosen for victimization because they are, sadly, often different. CW was- and he had a couple of extremely hard years- particularly in middle school. With boys, a lot rides on athletic prowess-- even in the early years-- and he was a skinny, small child in football land. I have no idea what makes "in" for girls. There was one horrible little girl whose grandmother was headmistress at the school and she traded on that constantly. Gosh, she was awful and the kids didn't even LIKE her, but somehow she had all this power over them. It is no consolation now, but by the time CW graduated from high school, he was voted Most Likely to Succeed. It was a vindication of sorts. And he says now that those horrible years made him stronger. Personally I would have opted for acceptance. Forget character building. It is much harder to watch your child suffer than endure something yourself and it's a challenge to keep yourself separate from that hurt. But you really have to do so to give them perspective. Your response sounds lowkey and supportive while not being angry and emotional. Good for you! Hey, you are very tall and you know lots of big words. I bet you would be intimidating. I admit that I take nasty pleasure when I hear that one of the "incrowd" has dropped out of school or is busted for drugs. It is one of MY least attractive traits.