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To: Grainne who wrote (94348)	1/22/2005 3:15:42 AM
From: one_less	Respond to of 108807

"So perhaps I still don't understand." It is a simple and basic fact of developmental psychology. Statements that you don't agree with it are nonsensical, unless you advocate raising kids with abnormal and disturbed psychological development. The approval felt when mommy is pleased with baby is the most powerful motivator and guide for child behavior. It may be coupled with handing her a cookie or a big smile and giggles, lap time, outings, or what ever but the psycological message is 'this most significant person in my life approves' so my behavior is on the right track. I should think it would have a common sense ring to it, for crying out loud. What is so hard. It even works in classroom settings. Miss Murphy looks at Suzie in row three and says... "Oh Suzie I like the way you opened your book, are sitting straight, and appear ready to listen to instructions." What do you think the teacher sees out of the corner of her eye? She sees Johnnie in row one and Mary in row two quietly opening their books and improving their posture." So yes, when parents are cognisant of that fact, it is very useful. To deny it, is to confuse your kids psychologically. They need to feel confident about what will be approved of and what will earn disaproval. It tells them how much you care. That is one of the reasons why they test limits. They also need to feel safe. Knowing that a stable adult is in charge is important for healthy emotional development. Not knowing what will be approved of or feeling that there is no reliable way to earn approval from significant adults, is considered one of the primary causes of schizophrenia.