To: Cindy B. who wrote (15780 ) 3/3/2005 4:04:30 PM From: epicure Read Replies (1) | Respond to I'm not sure that's true- about giving up the child. I've met quite a few women (at least 10) who gave up children, and they wonder constantly about their children, and should they try to find them, is their child trying to find them, etc. It seems to cause quite a bit of emotional trauma. Abortion is, at least, closure. I don't ask about abortion, because in 3d it just isn't one of those subjects I like to bring up- since it is fundamentally, like religion, a potentially relationship destabilizing topic. But one woman who I know very well would have definitely had an abortion had they been available. She found having the child very emotionally scarring, and never managed to get over it (and never had any more children, or managed to have a long term relationship after the birth).and two-thirds continued to experience these feelings five to 15 years after relinquishment (Sachdev, 1989). Nearly all of the women believed that relinquishing a baby would cause even greater emotional trauma than abortion. They believed they would develop a deep emotional attachment to the baby that would be extremely painful to sever (Sachdev, 1993).
