To: Maurice Winn who wrote (61760 ) 5/4/2005 9:28:22 PM From: Pogeu Mahone Respond to of 74559 European interviewer: "What do you think of European civilization?" Ghandi: "I think it would be an excellent idea". __________________________ WEDNESDAY, MAY 4, 2005 NEW YORK SEEN Mother’s Day remembrance BY FELICE COHEN am New York Columnist For those whose mothers have passed on, Mother’s Day is a time for remembrance. And this year, as Mother’s Day (May 8) comes on the heels of Holocaust Remembrance Day (May 5), for some families it may be a time for both. For my mother, the two have always been the same. Before even aware of it, I used humor to distract from the subtle sadness that overshadowed this annual celebration. I knew my mother was thinking about her mother. For my family, this May not only marks the 60th anniversary of the liberation of Bergen Belsen, but the 40th anniversary of the day my mother’s mother took her own life. A Holocaust survivor at Bergen Belsen, my grandmother found life after liberation to be a struggle. Once the Red Cross showed up and survivors began looking for their families and reality settled in that their families were no more, a new battle for survival began. My grandmother had the strength to survive the Holocaust but not the depression that followed. She battled depression in 1951 when she left Germany aboard a ship destined for New York City. Traveling with a family that now only included a husband, a small daughter and the promise of a new life, there were also the haunting memories, hidden like an unwanted stowaway in their tattered suitcase. For a while she was able to control her memories of the death she had seen and smelled. But it proved too strong to repress. A doctor suggested having another child would detract her attention. It worked for a short time. One day her invisible disease took over. My grandmother took her own life the same week that the people of Israel celebrated Yom HaShoah, their day to remember the Holocaust. Six days later, her three children, who had been preparing to celebrate Mother’s Day, suddenly had no reason to do so. As much as a quiet sadness will detract a bit from the cheerful celebration of my family’s Mother’s Day this year, a new addition has arrived to refocus the attention - a baby girl to complete the cycle, to help replace the six million who died and to prove that the best gifts aren’t always the ones you buy.